Tuesday, July 24, 2012
How Many Calories in French Fried Judgement?
There's a lot of talk about Chick-Fil-A this week and how they use a portion of their profits to support anti-gay groups. This isn't news. This has been going on awhile.
The only new thing is that Chick-Fil-A president Dan Cathy said, "Guilty as charged." Oh, and that Dan Cathy is a your typical bald, doughy, white, sanctimonious prick.
Number one: I am sick to death of people using the term "family values" to refer only to a man married to a woman with 2.5 kids, a dog, and an SUV in the driveway. Unless, of course, the term "family values" means "conforming to societal norms."
My aunt has been with her partner almost my entire life. I have never forgotten the time I visited them when they were in college at Ball State. I wore what, at the time, I called a "habba top" and I was four years old. (It was a halter top. Oh, and I am now 39 and these two amazing women are still together.)
You damn well better believe these women are family and we have values. Those values are rooted in kindness, understanding and love.
So I understand that Dan Cathy has a right to his opinion and I will kindly choose not to eat at his restaurant. Frankly, I choose not to eat there much anyway because the food is bad for you and has way too many calories.
The chicken sandwich alone has 440 calories and 16 grams of fat. The peach milkshake has 720 calories and 19 grams of fat. 720 CALORIES in one Styrofoam cup. Hmm, I guess gluttony is one of the things in the bible ol' Dan could care less about (along with "judge not lest ye be judged").
Number two: Did anyone else notice that in the interview Cathy, very pointedly, said "We're all married to our first wives."
"We are very much supportive of the family—the biblical definition of the family unit," Cathy told the Baptist Press. "We are a family-owned business, a family-led business, and we are married to our first wives. We give God thanks for that."
Well, good for you. I guess that means you can sit in judgement on those of us who have been married and divorced. We must not be as good as you. We must be horrible sinners with no "family values."
Also, Dan, I hate to get technical on you, marriage as sanctioned by the bible goes way beyond a man and a woman and a house in the suburbs. For example, a rapist is expected to marry his victim. A man is expected to marry his brother's widow to provide an heir. Etc. and so on. So please, stop waving your bible around to defend your pick-and-choose method of religion.
Maybe we divorced people understand that marriage can be extremely difficult, that sometimes you work as hard as you possibly can to save your relationship and yet you find that you must remove yourself from a situation that is unhealthy and that is destroying your mental health and your emotional strength day by day.
I'm thinking, along with those who support gay rights, that perhaps divorced people shouldn't eat your disgusting waffle fries anymore either. (I know I'm in the minority but your fries gross me out.)
You have every right to your views and to donate your money to whomever you choose. I support your freedoms.
But I am so very tired of wondering why people use their freedoms to hate others, to attack the rights of people who don't conform to their narrow view of life or religion.
How can they hide beneath the banner of "family values" while they attack people who ARE families?
It makes no sense to me at all.
I just keep thinking about this wonderful quote from the talented and insightful writer Anne Lamott.
"You can safely assume you've created God in your image when it turns out God hates all the same people you do."